For all I know, expecting a PvE server right now is far fetched. You might not be on the side that favors a PvP server but that's just how it is.
The reality is that most private servers are PvP and we just have to deal with it. On retail I played on PvE realm. In fact, the whole PvP aspect was new to me until I joined private servers. It was harsh adjusting to it, but I did it. If most of the private servers were PvE, I'd love that, but they aren't and I keep playing because I love the game for what it is, pvp or pve. Those that can't adjust just stop playing. Simple as that. It's a harsh reality unfortunately.